It was just a few months ago when critics chimed in on Willow’s Tweets back in February:
“Sometimes… Life sucks” “This day has been horrific… #wishlifewaseasy” “I am regular person…. For forget that… Nobody has a PICTURE PERFECT life… I am still just a child…” and “Omg, stop it already! I’m not allowed to have a bad day? This has nothing to do with my parents! Geez!”
Leaving many to question is Willow really ready to handle the pressures of fame and did her parents allow her to be in the spotlight too soon? Many have argued and have given their opinion on Will and Jada’s parenting techniques, with many who believe the Smith’s children Willow and Jaden have too much freedom. With a recent photo Willow posted on instagram this past weekend (below) the parenting skills of will and Jada are once again up for discussion.
Although tongue piercing has a long history in religious and performance practices, it is clear 11-year-old Willow Smith, was doing it for fun! According to the hashtags posted with the instagram photo “#fake #dontjudge #justhavingfun.” It’s evident that the eccentric, “Whip My Hair” singers ever-changing appearance is becoming a question of concern. Is she headed down a road of self-destruction and will this be the story of a child star gone wrong, once again? It is hard to say because every child is different and I do believe if parents are involved in their children’s life they can decipher what their children can and cannot handle. From what I have seen reported, Will and Jada may be a little carefree but they don’t seem to be the neglectful type of parents. However the more I look at the situation from the outside, I am not shocked by the behavior Willow is conducting. Will recently stated that:
“When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives.”
Hmmm… not sure about that, very interesting concept, but I am pretty sure empowering your daughter by teaching her guidelines and boundaries will enable her to make wise decisions when it comes to her body and or a man. One of those parenting guidelines should be pretty basic and that is; you as a parent are in charge of what you see is best for your child, until they are capable of fully understanding the outcomes of their decisions whether it is something the child agrees with or not. How many times as an adult have you said, “Now I see and understand why my parents did what they did?” It is because as a child and sometimes even as a young adult, you can not and will not understand why your parents are giving you the guidance you receive. At age eleven, majority of the time I think it is safe to say the parent will know best. Does this mean the child can not have an opinion? Absolutely not. Should they be able to express that opinion? Depends if it is an age appropriate situation. Certain things are truly adult conversations and behaviors that an eleven year old shouldn’t process or be expected to.
Will and Jada have stated and seem to follow their parenting of letting their children be freely who they are, which is ok to some extent. Extent meaning there has to be some boundaries. Would I let my 10-year-old who is about to turn 11 pierce her tongue or place a fake one in to take photos like it was a real one? Absolutely not! And if she did I would probably turn into Tyler Perry’s character Madea, who popped the kid on the bus that talked back, in the movie “Madea’s Family Reunion” faster then you can say MA to the D.E.A.
The question in all of this should be “why”? Why would a child feel the need to create such drastic changes to herself, whether it is their hair, alarming tweets and/or fake piercings? As a parent, when it starts to become a common theme, despite the criticism, you have to be concerned enough to ask why? Some reasons this could occur is as a desperate cry for attention and not being able to express it in a healthy way. If it is not for any of the reasons above and this is just a new way kids and parents do stuff, well then maybe that’s it and everyone is concerned for no reason. Like Jada stated:
‘There are so many other kids you can worry about. My kids? They’re going to be all right. I get why people would criticize. But people need to know that Will and I would never put our children in a situation that would bring them detriment. If I survived everything that I survived in Baltimore and Will survived everything he survived in Philly, these kids surely can survive the Hollywood game.’ ~Jada Smith (UpTown Magazine July 2011)
Do you think people are over reacting to Willow’s latest behavior? Would you let your daughter have complete control over how she looks or what she does with her body at 11 years old?
- How Young Is Too Young? Willow Smith Gets A Tongue Piercing (jessicasimien.com)
- Willow Smith Pierces Tongue: First Look! (thehollywoodgossip.com)
- Willow Smith Denies Tongue Piercing Via Instagram: ‘It’s Fake’ (PHOTO) (celebuzz.com)